Online personal ads consistently say “Sense of humor,” and
some studies of who gets called and responded to suggest that we do, indeed,
care about this characteristic in our potential mates.
Makes sense, too. Try
this logic chain:
·
Someone with a sense of humor is likely to take
the small things lightly. A genuine
sense of humor is inconsistent with dramatics, and
·
Laughing is good for your health and
·
Laughing makes you attractive.
We
are biologically programmed, from earliest neonate to elder, to respond to a
smiling face with an answering smile. If
I can get myself honestly laughing on the date, it not only means that I am
having a good time, it also means that I will appear more attractive to
you. [Chimpanzees and gorillas know
that a human smile means positive intentions, so it must go back at least 15
million years.]
Humor is a real asset in life as well as
dating, for all three reasons. Call up
funny videos on You Tube or Facebook.
Flush the cortisol out of your body with short breaks to laugh. Allow those tense muscles to naturally
relax. Your brain will clear, solutions
will pop into consciousness and you’ll actually notice that the sun is shining,
or you’ve got some blessed rain, and you’re alive. You’ll take a deep breath and remember that
it is very, very good to be alive, and loved by the universe and probably quite
a few people and other animals. You’ll
take another breath and the whole day has shifted on its axis.
Pretty good ROI on 2 minutes of laughing,
wouldn’t you say?
